It’s a question I’ve often asked myself where my children are concerned. You see when I was at school, there didn’t seem to be *bullies*, there was just the “hard girls/boys”. I admittedly was a “
hard girl or so they all thought. I mean I could hold my own… I had a older brother, so naturally I had to fight him.. And win!
So when it comes to my children I’m
Never sure if it is bullying or just “normal” children’s behaviour.
Today I had a call from another mum at the school. My eldest boys school. I’ve known this mum for roughly eight years, our daughters are the same age, their in fact in the same tutor group in year 11. She informed me her son had been given £2.00 by my son and didn’t know why(?). At this particular time I was stood in the middle of a freezing cold field, watching my eldest son doing his cross country race that he represents his school for. So I told her I would chat to Him and see what he said then call her back later on. She was fine, just wanted answers, as did I.
After the run, we were in traffic and I approached the subject in a non threatening way. By threatening I mean
I have to keep this calm
Or he is going to think he’s being told of
way. So I simply said… Have either (I had both my boys with me) off you been in your piggy banks recently… My youngest son announced
yes!!! This morning I counted do it and so did he
pointing at his brother. So I waited a response and what I got was a bit, well, where I got this blog from.
yes I did I took £2.10 I thought it was £3.00 but it wasn’t then I have it to the boy at school for his Nan’s ball but it wasn’t enough he told me £5.00 so I have to bring more into school tomorrow but he did give me some cards
then took a HUGE deep breath, almost like a huge relief he had told me.
Now this is my dilema, why is some boy wanting money from my son? Why hasn’t my son told me this previously? Has my son given him more than £2.10? And definitely
I’m gonna flip if my sons being bullied!!!
After a few mins of my processing and gaining composure. I ask all the above questions. When we arrive home, I’m calm and satisfied I’ve reassured my boy he’s not in trouble (apart from sneaking his money) and I phone the other mum back.
Her instinct when I tell her what my son has said was
I’m gonna kill him
He’s a bully oh I’m
So sorry I’ll sort him
I leave it at that. Then 7pm
Comes and bang bang bang on my front door!!! It’s the dad, and the son. Oh great here we go!
After nearly a hour of battling it out! Admissions of maybe bullying were said, apologises made. Hand shake done. And finished.
I wonder if it really was bullying or mis understood intentions? Or just kids being kids?
All I do know is IF it’s repeated, I will have to be less diplomatic, bullies shouldn’t be tolerated, and I for one of the “hard girls” want my kids to be able to stand up and say No this is wrong, I deserve respect and to be treated right! And I shall endeavour to instill the same quality that they treat others the way they want to be treated.